There is a lot said nowadays about the evils of porn.
Some serial killers say it motivated their terrible deeds.
Some rapists say the same.
Some feminists say porn objectifies women
Others say it degrades women.
Some say at is of Satan.
And a few say it is responsible for a lot of assaults on women.

In fact, to some degree, most of them may be correct.
Although I would be skeptical of those who have committed crimes using it as a way of negating their own responsibility.

Now, let me make it absolutely clear that I do not think porn is bad just because it is porn. And there is no consentual sexual act with a woman I wont happily engage in. I am definitely no prude.
But this is not a about attitudes to sex.
It is about attitudes to women.

The porn industry must take responsibility for the way porn is presented.
Visit just about any porn site and you will find captions like 'Watch this slut whore bitch given a good seeing to' and such like.

I do feel, very strongly, that this is definitely bad.
I see no reason why a woman expressing her sexuality out of wanting to or as a way of making a living, should be viewed in such negative and degrading ways.

To my mind a woman should be able to express her personality, and her sexuality, without such negative connotations.

It all has to do with male hypocrisy and a view that sees male sexuality as valid and female sexuality as 'dirty'. And includes the some males wish to dominate and control whatever the cost to others.

A man who sleeps around is 'a lad' a 'worldly man' a 'womaniser'
A woman doing the same thing is seen and labeled as a slut and as a nasty person with no value.

I had a spam email recently with the heading 'see these nasty old sluts beg for it'.

Why?

I can not see the connection between sexual arousal and this awful type of degradation towards women.

What would be wrong with , ' This beautiful and sexual woman shares herself for your pleasure' or, 'shares her pleasure for you to enjoy'?

Why do so many men find it necessary to be so aggressive and insulting?

I have no objection to any language or behavior between consenting adults that may include role play where people play for mutual pleasure.

But, the norm seems to be for men to view women as just objects.
And  those who become obsessed with porn can soon be unable to separate fantasy from reality and some of them begin to believe that every woman they meet is just waiting to satisfy any mans every desire.

There is nothing, whatsoever, wrong with fantasy nor with using porn as an aid in that.

But please, make sure you can separate fantasy from reality.

And, porn producers, start treating those who are responsible for your huge profits, ie the women involved, with a good deal of respect.

It is perfectly possible to admire the female form and females expressing their sexuality in a way that is accepting of women and their human makeup.
Women are just as much sexual beings as men.
But they have to take a pile of flack for it though.

And men, if you decide to believe women are as the porn industry present them, then I would guess you have very little success in your relationships with women.

To my mind, a woman expressing her sexuality and showing her body, whether it be in private with their partner or in public on a stage are beautiful to behold.
But it in NO WAY, makes the woman less valid or of less worth that any other woman.

The problem does not lie with the naked form nor the display of sexual acts.
It lies with the presentation and the perception of those who view these things.

I have often witnessed the way men treat women in strip clubs. In my late teens early twenties, I was a doorman in a few Soho strip clubs, and , believe me, the strippers are not very impressed by negative and abusive things men say to them. I knew a lot of these women. The only thing that separated them from other women was their job. And just like every other woman, (or man) should be treated with respect because they are just humans with the same emotions as everyone else).

I have also seen drunk men assume that women just want to please them and then these men get aggressive when turned down.

Now, the way human reproduction works means that the woman has far far more to consider and far more invested in the possible outcome before engaging in 'casual' sex.
Besides, sex with a true partner is far superior, if done with honesty and care, than casual random sex.

I am not saying casual sex is wrong by definition but the difference is like the difference between eating a cold can of baked beans with a stranger and sharing a full roast dinner with a loved and loving woman.
Both may put an end to the hunger for a while but I know which I would prefer.

But to see nudity, sexuality and the sex act as either 'dirty' or 'wrong' is not beneficial to anyone.
And to treat female sexuality as somehow negating the validity of a woman is just sick.

There is nothing wrong with porn.
But there is a big problem with the degradation of women just because they engage in porn in one way or another.
The porn industry has a lot to answer for. They tend to present sex with the male dominating the female. And some morons believe this is the normal and right thing and start to treat women as they see in porn.

And THOSE are problems. And problems that can have huge consequences when men start to behave accordingly.

Let's take an unrelated 'similar'.
Suppose a woman is an excellent cook. She loves cooking. She may even cook in public and on TV.
Does that mean that all she is good for is providing pleasure by preparing food, for men?
Does it make her any less of a valid and whole woman?
Do men shout, 'cook me a meal bitch' when they see her? And would that be acceptable?
No it bloody wouldn't.

There is no getting away from the fact that the female form is beautiful and some of that form is absolutely the most beautiful and exciting experience in the universe but it would be nice if that is the way women, and their bodies, where responded to.
Joking is one thing. But genuine, one sided, unwanted, degradation and insult is another.

I think that men who think of women in that way should ask themselves some serious questions and find out why they find it necessary to act the way they do.
Then get treatment or go crawl under a stone somewhere and hide from humanity.

While I am at it. Why do so many men find they need to threaten, frighten and even use violence on women?
These same men won't say boo if a man upsets them yet find it acceptable to treat women badly. Almost as if it is the right, manly thing to do.
Listen wife beater, you need to get rid of anger and have a fight? Then go down the pub and throw someones pint at some bloke.
But you wont do that will you?
You small testicled excuse for a human let alone man.
You are a coward.
You are a disgrace.
Don't take your inadequacies out on other people. Especially those who your warped mind tells you are weaker than you are.
You deserve to be treated with scorn.

And when you start to feel you are superior to females ask yourself this.
Why do you have nipples?
I will tell you.
Every single man started out as a female.
The pattern for life is female
Before you were male you were female.
In the womb you, as is the case for all other men, where female before you were male.
So stop believing your gender is superior.
Nature says otherwise.
Accept it and learn from it.
You only got a dick because the female 'blank' for life decided it would be advantageous for a specific purpose.

And no, I am not gay.
I love women and am highly sexed.
I just dislike men who think male is better and stronger and that female is there just to service male.

People, be nice to each other.
Being nice is far less stressful than being 'orrible.
And stop all that nonsense with dominating others.
It's crap.

I have said enough.
You are probably bored.
Tuff titty!